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How to Practice: The Way to a Meaningful Life (original 2002; edition 2003)

by Dalai Lama (Author)

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I love this man! His words are so gentle and eager to explain and to teach. this is a great book for those looking to get started on the Buddhist path. ( )
  SumisBooks | Nov 12, 2017 |
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I've read this book previously, many years ago so I thought I should revisit it. When I picked it off the bookshelf it had a bookmark stuck in so it appears I tried to read it again in 2005 but gave up about half way through.

I don't agree entirely with the above synopsis when it mentions that it is easy to understand. Whilst this is true in the most part, the later sections of the book are very hard going and I would have thought that a reader with little or no prior knowledge of Buddhist psychology would have complete brain melt reading it. It does lend it self to being a long term guide/companion to buddhist study and that is where it is aimed.

The Dalai Lama does have a good way with words and his explaination of topics in general is very good, especially for the uninitiated. It should also be noted that he does not shy away from controversial topics which some scholars avoid like the plague.

The Dalai Lama has written many books which deal with themes in everyday life with a Buddhist slant in it. Whilst this certainly isn't one of those and for this reason and the complexity of the later chapters I have given in 2/5. It's an interesting read but by no means an easy one. ( )
  Brian. | Jun 19, 2021 |
As human beings, we all share the desire for happiness and meaning in our lives. According to His Holiness the Dalai Lama, the ability to find true fulfillment lies within each of us. In this very special book, the spiritual and temporal leader of Tibet, Nobel Prize winner, and bestselling author helps readers embark upon the path to enlightenment with a stunning illumination of the timeless wisdom and an easy-access reference for daily practice.
Divided into a series of distinct steps that will lead spiritual seekers toward enlightenment, How to Practice is a constant companion in the quest to practice morality, meditation, and wisdom. This accessible book will guide you toward opening your heart, refraining from doing harm, and maintiaining mentaltranquility as the Dalai Lama shows you how to overcome everyday obstacles, from feelings of anger and mistrust to jealousy, insecurity, and counterproductive thinking. Imbued with His Holiness' vivacious spirit and sense of playfulness, How to Practice offers sage and practical insight into the human psyche and into the deepest aspirations that bind us all together.
  PSZC | Dec 30, 2019 |

It was with some trepidation that I thought I might adapt some of the Dalai Lama's ideas about "practice" to my own daily routine. I find the Dalai Lama to be more than charismatic; there is something about him that permeates the television. I was rather pleased when I read (p. 223):

Though my own knowledge is limited and my experience is also very poor, I have tried my best to help you understand the full breadth of the Buddha's teaching. Please implement whatever in these pages appears to be helpful. If you follow another religion, please adopt whatever might assist you. If you do not think it would be helpful, just leave it alone.

So, I have decided to adopt some things, and to leave others alone.

Things to keep:


I am impressed by the extent that Stoicism mirrors Buddhism in terms of logic and practice. I wonder to what extent Zeno of Cition (the founder of Stoicism) was influenced by Buddhist thought? Buddhism had reached the Seleucid Empire, and Zeno was apparently of Phoenician decent, so it is quite possible. 




According to Leesa Davis and Matthew Sharpe of Deakin University, it is not uncommon to see parallels between Stoicism and Buddhism, but there is not much in Western academic literature about it. I suspect this is because the boastfulness of "Western" thought would crumble once facts overcome pride. But I digress.




First, the "practice"of Buddhism is about changing ourselves (p. 9):

Individually we have to work to change the basic perspectives on which our feelings depend. We can only do so through training, by engaging in practice with the aim of gradually reorienting the way we perceive ourselves and others.


For the Stoics, this is based on the logic of what we can and cannot control (see Epictetus' Enchiridion), and then managing our impressions (or how we judge external events). Marcus Aurelius, often referred to as a "cosmopolitan", extended this to how we treat and respond to other people, reflected by the Dalai Lama, thus (p. 10):

The essential objective of daily practice is to cultivate an attitude of compassion and calm - a state of mind particularly crucial in human society today for its power to yield true harmony among nations, races, and people from diverse religious, political, and economic systems.

Second, the Dalai Lama confirms my approach to daily reflection, echoing Benjamin Franklin's Book of Virtues (p. 40):

Examine your motivation as often as you can. Even before getting out of bed in the morning, establish a nonviolent, nonabusive outlook for your day. At night examine what you did during the day.


The idea of examining my motivations is new to me, in that I rarely do this deliberately and certainly not every day.  Yet the idea of reinforcing the logic of the philosophy/religion is key. In my practice of Stoic philosophy over the past two years, I have found that if I do not constantly return to the logic, I act unconsciously, thus the maxim on my desk reads "avoid unconscious reaction, find the logic, create good habits".




The Dalai Lama says something similar, echoing Socrates (p. 38):

It is important to diminish undisciplined states of mind, but it is even more important to  meet adversity with a positive attitude.


I find here some divergence from Stoic practice. Arguably, this highlights some of the weaknesses of the Stoic idea of the "common good". The Dalai Lama is more utilitarian in his outlook (p. 39):

...ingesting [others'] negatives is not much of a problem for me, but it lessens their problems. I do this with such strong feeling that if later in the day in my office I hear of their atrocities, although one part of my mind is a little irritated and angry, the main part is still under the influence of the morning practice; the intensity of the hatred is reduced to where it is groundless.


Moreover, he sees hope as important, whereas the Stoics would see hope and fear as want and worry; things to be abandoned as beyond our control and therefore not worth pursuing. But for the Dalai Lama (p. 39):

Under no circumstances should you lose hope. Hopelessness is a real cause of failure. Be calm, even when the external environment is confused or complicated; it will have little effect if your mind is at peace.


Both Buddhism and Stoicism agree that anger is useless. This quote from the Dalai Lama could equally apply to the Stoics (p. 41):

Analyze your life closely. If you do, you will eventually find it difficult to misuse your life by becoming an automaton or by seeking money as the path to happiness.


Third, the idea of choosing how we react to external events lends some credence to the idea that, with practice, we can control how we react to our emotions, and not encourage emotions that are not useful (or at least prevent useless emotions based on our misjudged perceptions) (p. 42):

Regularly evaluate the possible negative and positive effects of feelings such as lust, anger, jealousy, and hatred. When it becomes obvious that their effects are very harmful, continue your analysis. Gradually your conviction will strengthen. Repeated reflection on the disadvantages of anger, for example, will cause you to realize that anger is senseless. This decision will cause your anger to diminish gradually.


Here is confirmation of the idea of finding the logic, and for me, it necessitates what religious and philosophical practice has preached for centuries. 




The key point is that once we have found the logic, when we can believe that the logic is true, there is no switch that enables a rational re-alignment of our behaviours from then on. The belief in the logic has to be reinforced, over and over again, through daily practice, so that we achieve what Paul Colaianni in The Overwhelmed Brain says is "congruence" (p. 29):

...aligning your intentions with your behavior (congruence).


This is no easy task and it requires reflection (morning and night at a minimum), judgement (of ourselves, not others),  and practice (the doing). But unless we can recall the logic (memorise it) and believe in the logic (in effect, remembering the logic and remembering to believe in it), then congruence readily remains aloof.

Things to consider:


The idea of "the middle way" was interesting, and echoes to some extent Aristotle's idea of the "golden mean" of virtue. But that is a rather flaky comparison. For example, the Dalai Lama writes of three categories of non-virtues (physical, verbal, and mental), and that virtues are the opposite of non-virtues. The non-virtues are:



  • Physical: Killing, stealing, and sexual misconduct.

  • Verbal: Lying, divisive talk, harsh speech, and senseless chatter.

  • Mental: Covetousness, harmful intent, and wrong views.



But the idea of the "middle way" is more about a sense of logic. This is difficult to achieve and explain, but it is basically a process of being (p. 169): 

...pulled from one side to the other... [between] how phenomena arise in dependence on causes and conditions... [and how] persons and things appear to be so solidly existent, to exist in their own right, to exist inherently... the true middle way takes time to find.


Things to leave alone:

Of course, I have my own religious beliefs, so the religious practices of Sutra and Tantra are not for me. Not that it wasn't useful learning about Buddhist religious practice, and the Dalai Lama did this with such humour, at one point I burst out laughing (p. 124):

A yogi's meditation transforms [sex, delicious meat and drink, even human excrement and urine] into real ambrosia. For people like us, however, this is beyond our reach. As long as you cannot transform piss and shit, these other things should not be done!

Generally, the Dalai Lama suggests that a Buddha has no use for alcohol, drugs, or sexual intercourse (p. 195). There are many parallels between various religions, and the Dalai Lama does not shy away from speaking at or to other religions.

Reflections:
One thing I found interesting counters a critique by a Salvation Army preacher I once heard. He said that the Buddhist idea of meditating on nothing was dangerous, as the emptiness enabled the devil to enter. But the Dalai Lama says that a Christian could focus on Jesus. The idea of nothingness and emptiness are not the same, and that preacher knew enough to be dangerous.

The Dalai Lama speaks of ignorance thus (p. 44):

...ignorance is not just lack of knowledge but a consciousness that imagines the exact opposite of the truth; it misapprehends what is actually so. There are many levels of misperception, as in failing to understand what to adopt in practice and what to discard in daily behavior.

The biggest lesson for me is the importance of daily practice, especially as a way to cement a belief.  Religions and religious practice make sense in this regard. I don't mean that one should adopt a belief and force it upon oneself (or, indeed, others!). Rather, if there is a logic that one agrees with, then one must believe that logic.

The point is that unless we can turn to our logic in assessing events which we cannot control (in the Stoic sense), then how can we expect to behave rationally? If I have learnt anything from this journey into Buddhist theology and practice, logic and rational thinking rely on belief. But this is an examined belief, not one given to us, and it must be practised.

What I like most about the Dalai Lama is that he invited me to do so with this book and I am all the richer for it. And wouldn't it be wonderful if Stoicism has a direct link to Buddhism? The East-West divide perpetuated by ignoramuses would come crashing down in an instant! ( )
  madepercy | Dec 26, 2018 |
I love this man! His words are so gentle and eager to explain and to teach. this is a great book for those looking to get started on the Buddhist path. ( )
  SumisBooks | Nov 12, 2017 |
A good, interesting, fascinating look at meditation through the Dalai Lama's mindview. This isn't so much a guide to a "meaningful life" as it is a guide to "meditation to try and create a meaningful life". (A bit of a subtle difference there.) Its obviously through the views of the Tibetan Buddhist philosophy, and reincarnation is the prime principle behind the entirety of this work. Everything is leading up to working on bettering yourself for the cyclic nature and trying to forego all of that to eventually stop it and reach enlightenment. Some very good practices and ideas and ways to meditate on various topics. Some things are very esoteric, especially if you don't believe in the idea of reincarnation (I personally do not) and therefore are not quite practical. ( )
  BenKline | Mar 14, 2017 |
Loved the readability of the first half. Disheartened by the complexity of the middle and end, which is due to my own tenuous grasp on some of the higher-level Buddhist concepts. I love the Dalai Lama. ( )
  bookofmoons | Sep 1, 2016 |
This isn't a book to be read all at once. I think it works best if it's read a bit at a time. That said, I didn't find this to be a particularly easy read. There were sections that I had to read several times to understand what was being said and even then I still don't understand it all. Some of the terminology was unfamiliar, but that's understandable since this is the first book on Tibetan Buddhism I've read.

If you are wanting in introduction to Tibetan Buddhism, there may be other that are better suited. This is probably a good book if you have a better understanding of the concepts. I will probably come back and read this book again after I've done more reading on Tibetan Buddhism. ( )
  GeekGirlM | Dec 8, 2015 |
The Dalai Lama is such a witty character. He cracks me up and surprises me with every page of this book! It's so refreshing to read the words and advice of a religious leader that isn't stuffy and in your face about beliefs and religion.

He offers great wisdom and tips on living more peacefully and happily with an open heart and mind. I came away from this feeling lighthearted and motivated to be a better person, live more fully, and experience one day at a time, with grace. I respect him so much more after finishing this book! ( )
  mellowbunstar | Oct 16, 2015 |
How To Practice: The Way to a Meaningful Life by His Holiness the Dalai Lama - His Holiness gives advice and explanations about how to develop a more meaningful life and move toward enlightenment in this informative but complex book. Of course he covers compassion and holding the happiness and welfare others before oneself. He also presents some meditation advice and complicated explanations of emptiness. It’s a worthwhile read that provides some useful information about Buddhism to any interested reader. However, it may be frustrating for readers without at least a baseline knowledge of Buddhism. ( )
  clark.hallman | Oct 19, 2014 |
I rate this book 2.5 stars. I adore His Holiness as well, and his messages always come from the heart. This book, however, I found a little bit boring and difficult to get through. ( )
  crazycatlady0 | Feb 4, 2011 |
I adore His Holiness. Not only is he a man of peace, but he is a man of true kindness and contagious joy. This book goes into detail about the beliefs of Tibetan Buddhism and their practical application (such as how to meditate) for Western students. ( )
  hafowler | Feb 18, 2009 |
An overview and practical guide to the practice of Tibetan Buddhism, interesting with some useful ideas although, with all due respect to His Holiness , I simply can't get on with some of the concepts, for instance I am fairly sure that the world is real and things do really exist, or then I might have misunderstood him (but I don't think so).
Charmingly he says at the end ' Please implement whatever in these pages appears to be helpful........If you do not think it would be helpful, just leave it alone' and thank you I will take the parts I find helpful. ( )
1 vote wendyrey | Nov 3, 2008 |
Small, wonderfully simple book that gently and patiently explains the basics of simple dharma practice. Perfect size for reading on trips and fitting into backpacks. Keep it handy, but don't get attached to it. HH the Dalai Lama is a simple monk who writes with endless compassion.
1 vote jamclash | Oct 11, 2005 |
I thought this would help me with my golf game, but not so much yet. More practice. ( )
  jamescostello | Apr 7, 2011 |
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